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Erection problems in gay relationships

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Erectile dysfunction is a common problem amongst men, and in particular in older men. When the problem becomes persistent it can greatly affect a couple’s sex life causing tension and performance anxiety. Erectile dysfunction is a condition which should not be ignored especially if it is causing relationship problems.

The inability to get and maintain an erection sufficient for satisfactory sexual intercourse is what defines erectile dysfunction and this can mean not being able to get an erection at all or just getting a partial erection which only lasts a few minutes. This can be hugely frustrating for those who suffer from the problem, especially if there is little understanding between partners. In gay relationships one would expect both partners to be more understanding of the problem, however it is not always the case. If erectile problems are causing a rift between you and your partner, it is really important to seek help from both a doctor and a relationship coach, as you do not have to resolve the problem on your own. Try not feel embarrassed about it, as you are not alone and medical professionals deal with similar problems frequently.

The outlook for most men is very good, and treating ED in most cases is relatively simple and successful. Some lifestyle changes such as a low fat diet and more exercise may be required as a natural means to treating erectile dysfunction, or a pill like Sildenafil or Cialis may be prescribed instead. The medication you use will depends on your personal circumstances and your medical history. As erectile dysfunction can be a symptom of an underlying condition like diabetes, cardiovascular disease, and raised cholesterol you should visit your GP to exclude these risk factors.

A relationship coach will be able to talk you and your partner through any psychological or emotional issues at the root of your problem. By opening the channels of communication you and your partner can deal with any underlying issues in your relationship. The relationship coach may be able encourage your partner to give you more support in dealing with the difficulties in your sexual relationship.

It might be useful to talk to other people going through the same problem. The GMFA gay men’s health charity has a very good website and can offer advice and support to those who are looking for honest sound advice targeting gay men’s health issues specifically. Their online forum will help you to connect with other people in the same situation and their email service allows you to contact a professional for advice.